My book projects.

The Self-Love Trap: Why Loving Yourself Isn’t Always the Answer & Why Presence Matters More (working title) is a book is for the woman who survived childhood abuse and now carries a quiet, persistent ache: that she is too damaged to love her child well. Shaped by shame and self-doubt — and convinced she has failed at loving herself — she wonders how she could possibly love her child the way they deserve.

But the issue isn’t her capacity to love. It’s the distorted definitions of love she inherited — ideas rooted in performance, compliance, and conditional acceptance. These are the very ideas that self-love culture often repackages and sells back to her as healing. The real fear isn’t that she can’t love her child — it’s that her child might have to earn that love, just as she once attempted to do.

This book challenges the commodified promises of self-love culture and exposes how it often reinforces trauma-shaped beliefs about worth and love. By the end, you’ll be invited to dismantle those beliefs, reclaim a love ethic rooted in agency and clarity, and begin to trust in your deep, inherent capacity to love — because guess what sis, you are Love.