My book project.

My book is for the woman who survived childhood abuse and now carries a quiet, persistent ache: that she is too damaged to love her child well. Shaped by shame and self-doubt — and convinced she has failed at loving herself — she wonders how she could possibly love her child the way they deserve.

But the issue isn’t her capacity to love. It’s the distorted definitions of love she inherited — ideas rooted in performance, compliance, and conditional acceptance. These are the very ideas that self-love culture often repackages and sells back to her as healing. The real fear isn’t that she can’t love her child — it’s that her child might have to earn that love, just as she once attempted to do.

This book challenges the commodified promises of self-love culture and exposes how it often reinforces trauma-shaped beliefs about worth and love. By the end, you’ll be invited to dismantle those beliefs, reclaim a love ethic rooted in agency and clarity, and begin to trust in your deep, inherent capacity to love — because guess what sis, you are Love.

Want to Go Deeper? Listen to the Audio Companion: The Self-Love Trap.

This intimate audio companion to my book shares the behind the scenes behind my book and seeks to explore the history of self love culture, why self love culture isn’t meant for survivors and how it can keep us stuck avoiding the the deeper work behind healing — and what it takes to reclaim a love ethic rooted in presence.

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